Ability to set goals and force yourself to do something. Many people are wasting their time during this period. Justifying that I am so young, I do not owe anyone anything, I am so lazy. And time goes by. What you start to do at 20 ... will bear fruit at 25.
It's like a term paper. First, panic ... then you make a plan ... slowly you understand what to do ... you work ... and now she is ready!
So in the life of the Lord.
To have the realization that a person does not owe anything to anyone, does not blame himself for everything that has happened around - this is a real goal, which is really difficult to achieve by the age of 20, but if you do it, it will be a very good result. (/)
20 years - student years. The main currency is beer, and valuable assets are "dead souls" in the hostel, smelly Soviet refrigerators, a ready-made exchange paper, a printer and business - "on printing", good relations with the team - in general, complete nonsense and slag. You need to have all this in order to survive, but as a rule, a person understands this himself, there is no need to advise here.
A young man, first of all, needs to have communication with his own kind. Communication in the modern world occurs mainly in electronic format, so by the age of 20 you need to be able to stay in offline communication. It is this skill that will now and in the future will be an important advantage and characteristic of happy people.
Communication requires languages that must be constantly learned in order to improve their skills. As Ilya Oskolkov-Tsentsiper said, “there are only three foreign languages that will be useful to everyone - programming, English and Chinese.”
Even in our rapidly changing world, flexibility and the ability to adapt to the environment are required. The presence of a profession, interests in a certain area or inclinations for a certain activity from the point of view of their value in the future are not so important. The ability to process information and draw quick and correct conclusions from it is much more important. During the years of study, all these skills are helped to develop by the queen of sciences - mathematics.
If we are going to finish the topic of pragmatics, then it is worth thinking about what to live with next. At the age of 20, people start thinking about savings that will help them achieve big goals. The online service Yango, which our team of professionals launched six months ago, will help with this. With this mobile application, it's easy and simple to place savings in bonds of reliable issuers and receive government support in the form of tax deductions.
If the question comes from the heart, not from the head, then it is best to listen to Lukas Graham, who sang about this in the single "7 years" -https: //www.youtube.com/watch? v = LHCob76kigA
A sound mind (I mean logic for example) is the most important thing. It is difficult to earn something out of 20 material things, and indeed it all depends on values.
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There is only one thing that is ashamed not to have at 20, 40, 80, and no matter how many years - a sufficient amount of indifference so as not to bother with this question yourself and not to soar others.
The desire to live. The rest will follow _____ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
A horse, a can of sprat, a walkie-talkie, a teleport, a family of potentially breeding slaves, a developed speech apparatus, a map of Gabon and Greenland, a crouton, a package of building foam, 79 condoms, two of which are from 1997, a twig posture, a mallet, a can of beans , a couple of terabytes of HD porn, a blue umbrella, a gravity medal, grilling tongs, nipples, and no one owes anyone anything.
A car like that of a mother's friend's son and a job match a person with 3 higher, Nobel Prize, knowledge of 6 languages, it is natural to study 5 and attend all pairs, be a master of sports in chess and a world champion in wrestling, like the one from the next doorway ...
depending on who you owe. purely speculative, it would be nice to have a school certificate, a job (or study at a university) at the age of 20. the rest is completely optional.
First of all, at the age of 20, you need to be intelligent enough to understand that childhood is over and the time has come for adult life with all its responsibility and achievements as a reward. It is advisable to begin to determine life guidelines, goals, principles .
In principle, I agree with the answers above that people are all different, they owe nothing to anyone and blah blah blah. But do not forget that we do not live on a rainbow and do not ride unicorns, but we live in the animal world, being animals ourselves. Therefore, adaptation should not be alien to us. So, in order to exist and survive normally today, there are things that are worth acquiring by 20. And things not necessarily of a material nature.
Knowledge of English.
Ability to make the right contacts.
Have values that are relevant today.
The list can be continued for a long time, in fact, but you get the idea, I think.
Definitely the brain, perhaps in 20 years this is enough. It is very important not to get stuck at mark 17, you live your life, have fun, and then op 30 or 40. I looked around, and there is nothing, neither spiritual nor material, and then you definitely have problems. I think at this age you need to at least start to think about something significant and start doing something in the slightest degree (if you are a person with ambitions and a claim, of course), but if you know for sure that you are gouging and that suits you, then burn (this for those whose idol is Lebowski). Without a claim to righteousness and exclusively IMHO.
In order not to do stupid things, which he will then regret.
To appreciate the importance of loved ones.
To come up with something to occupy yourself as much as possible.
To try yourself in many ways and dwell on what interests you.
At the age of 20, a person should ALREADY have a brain.
In such a difficult modern life, it would be nice for a person to keep a pure heart by the age of 20.
All these cars, apartments, summer cottages, other property ... it's a real deal! But to remain a kind person, a person with a big heart, when not only in the country, but also in the world such a difficult situation is strong!
Be kinder! Know how to forgive, do not accumulate grievances, compromise, help each other, do not think evil. It is not easy for those around us without our negative emotions. Yes, it sounds like some kind of conspiracy, but isn't that happiness?
from birth to 10 years. a person, in principle, has nothing. only a family. and that is not all. You live without understanding what is happening around. Many do not even remember what happened in their life during those years. You just exist.
from 11 to 20. school years and a little student years, the first part-time jobs. it is possible that your own has already appeared. some interests, hobbies, etc. Puberty. You start thinking with your head, different questions arise: why is it like this, but it is like this. You live for your family and friends.
from 21 onwards. Here, it seems to me, there is a moment of critical point where life ends for the sake of others and life begins for yourself. You realize that childhood is over and the time begins where there is only you and the whole world.
What about what should you have at 20? Head on the shoulders. And something for which you want to wake up in the morning. It doesn't matter what it is, it's a personal matter for everyone, the main thing is to find it and not let go.
Own opinion. Period.
It is, in principle, useful at any age, but at an earlier age, its absence is more or less forgivable, and at 20 it is no longer. You can have nothing material - everything will come with time, if you don’t sit back and know exactly what you want.
Two airplanes, a summer residence, four children, seven castles (in each of the seven kingdoms), five (or better 8) higher educations, three times must be divorced and 12 concubines, several cars, which are already at personal discretion.
But seriously, don't listen to anyone. Do as your heart tells you and live the same way. Do not look at other people's successes, but rejoice at yours. 20 years is a wonderful age))
Should is someone else's will, not a sincere desire. Where "should" there is laziness, procrastination and disappointment.
At twenty, it would be ideal to throw this word out of your life forever and do what makes you happy.
PS: Don't forget just as you owe nothing to anyone, so no one owes you anything either. Ideally, people do useful things for each other because they themselves want to.
I will add to the answers: improve your health. With the course of life, the body gradually becomes decrepit. You will be very grateful to yourself in the future if you try for yourself in your younger years) Besides, good health contributes to a good mood. A good mood is the key to success, happiness, satisfaction and new emotions)
The question is influenced by the so-called public opinion. And this is still an abomination if you know all the causes and effects.
First, nobody owes anything to anyone. Almost all articles of our Constitution speak of this. Read something - you will learn a lot of interesting things. In general, I do not recommend using this word without an appropriate legal basis. Otherwise, you can plow all your life on invented debts. I anticipate many disadvantages.
Secondly, every person has a different development. Marketers can endlessly tell us (and the proletariat, of course, repeat after them) that this or that age is one or another material value, one or another knowledge, one or another character trait. But in reality, all this is done for the sake of profit, so that the proletariat carries money for letters. And for the latter, in turn, this very often results in kitsch and posturing. The reality is harsh, yes.
I hope I will not say anything new, but, based on this, I can advise you to start doing what you do best. Money and material values are all temporary, not to mention the ways in which they are taken.
Indeed, everything is very subjective, each person develops in his own way, however, there are different aspects of a person that develop in him when he reaches 20 years old. These sides can be referred to as psychological, physical, social and mental development.
So, by the age of 20, it is desirable to test several social roles - although in what proportions, quality and performance this will be done - is a purely individual matter. The same with the rest of the points.
The main thing is to realize that now the foundation is being laid for what a person will be like for the rest of his life, and if he has not succeeded in something, it is imperative to make an effort and get rid of the burdensome circumstances and, on the contrary, to develop the necessary undertakings in oneself.
Understanding who you are and who you want to become is the task of a 20-year-old individual. There is even a book on this score "Why 30 is not the new 20". Be sure to read :)
The most important thing that a person should have by the age of 20 is developed critical thinking, the desire to achieve something, the ability to enjoy the moment and be happy right now (without looking back / without looking into the future), an endless craving for knowledge and obtaining new experience. This is much more important than some kind of material base, because the main capital is you yourself.
I would say - honor and conscience. Material values are bullshit, creative and professional achievements are an individual matter, and if a person has neither honor nor conscience at twenty, it is unlikely that something good will come of him in the future.
I don't like the way the question is structured. A priori, a person owes nothing to anyone, at any age, under any conditions, except for the cases when he has agreed with someone.