They have already said about the excitement in certain genres, but in general - if we touch on the games with the plot, then usually the opportunity to immerse yourself in an interesting story and feel like a participant in it is captivating. In some cases, an outburst of negative emotions is required at all - and it is better to let it be a video game than domestic violence, alcoholism or something worse.
As for women - damn it, ladies, choose a man with similar interests, do not believe the idiotic saying about "opposites attract" - it may be so, but it does not always work. The main thing. what you will gain - a greater percentage of peace of mind in life together, if you do not have to constantly make scandals because of an annoying hobby. And, yes, if a man is a gamer, then most likely this is understandable right away, and in this case, indignation looks a little strange: you saw what he is fond of, and if you don’t like it - why did you get in touch with him? You can't re-educate people.
I will not say for all men. I love and look for different things in games: when the plot, when a relaxed shooter, when a complex strategy, when a sandbox with a rich setting like Skyrim. Games for me are a way to relax and switch.
I spend time and MMORPGs, the difficulty lies in the fact that it takes three hours per session, you cannot interrupt (read, pause), since most of the session you spend as a team - in PVP or in a raid.
With my girlfriend, we came to a simple compromise. There are three days a week when I’m busy playing for three hours, the rest of the time is at her disposal)) In general, we both somehow understand that in a relationship we need everyone to have their own personal space, and free time for some of your interests. The main thing is not to devote too much time to games, so to speak, not to mania, because so no super-duper game can replace reality, and relationships that you don't pay attention to, which they do not work on and develop will simply die.
Answering the first part of the question, let me remind you that men are by nature more hazardous than women, and games give the excitement that they lack in real life (but not all games, of course).
Regarding the second part of the question - why is it actually a problem? That is, when your man drinks thumps every Friday and Saturday with the boys, this is normal; when he disappears in the garage every Saturday, this is also normal; and when he hangs around the clubs at night - it's normal. But when he sits and plays games at home, that's all, goat.
Dear ladies, if you married a man who plays games, and you don’t like it, then it seems that you have a problem ... Because you had to think with your head. I do not understand why these ladies are trying to dissuade their man from playing games, they put some conditions like "either me or a computer." That is, it is better that the man is not at home than when he silently (!) Sits at home regularly?
And also a good thing for a woman is to understand and share her man's hobby. Believe me, this is many times better than scandals, and games are not such a deadly hobby to nag your man because of it.
But if we are talking about addiction, when a man scores on everything and plays, then the question is already for you, dear ladies, why did you choose this for yourself?
I myself play games (since childhood, it happened), and my man plays. There have never been conflicts about the fact that one of us is a gamer. You just need to appreciate the hobby of your loved one and respect him as a person (a loved one, of course, not a hobby).
It seems to me that it's high time to divide the addiction to games into two categories. Some people like games like movies, books or music and appreciate the atmosphere, plot, characters, varied gameplay, fresh emotions and sensations in games.
Others like gambling, such as cops or pillboxes, or tanks so that there is a competitive spirit and a thrill from coordinated team actions and victory.
By the way, even our teacher at the university distinguished such people, I remember, he started talking about tanks in a couple, then he stopped and said that he had said that tanks were played in another group, but here more in FarCry 3 or Assassin Creed.
And if your spouse falls into the second category, then arrange a bunch of problems and challenges for them in real life, let them have a reason for real experiences, rather than "leaking another skating rink; this time you can't lose , tim bottom, etc. ".