I'll explain with an example how it works. The usual evolution of a guy's messages on any dating resource looks like this:
1) first you spend a lot of time, read the ads, look through the profiles, choose the most suitable , you write long sheets to each one personally. 99% of you do not get an answer at all, and if you get it, then the answer is divided into: a) "you wrote everything so well, but I'm not really looking for anyone, just so sit until "(in fact -" the ladies, but not you ") b)" all that you have written well, but I need a millionaire / Negro with 30cm bolt / other option " ... At the same time, a criterion is called, which is not even closely voiced in the announcement / questionnaire, and often completely contradicts it. c) "put money on a card / phone, send a photo / call back / come for coffee" (divorce, of course) d) (rarely) an honest prostitute throws off her price
Naturally, after overdofig of wasted time, conclusions are drawn, and now it looks like this
2) some kind of "blank" is written for everything cases of life, which is fanned out to all the pages / profiles you like.
The answers, in principle, are the same, but now the "coverage" is much more, well, the answers, respectively, are more.
3) Stupidly in VK it is sent to all the women who show up in dating groups "Hello" or in a particularly neglected case - just a photo of hell with the caption "do you want me?"
as a result of constant frost and ignorance on the part of girls / women, is in phase 3). The latter are enraged by the constant stream of letters of type 2) and 3), and do not even try to select letters of type 1) from them.
Both answers that are available at the moment suggest that the problem is in the "popularity of a woman", but it seems to me that the problem is completely different - in uncommunicativeness and stupidity.
See if the girl is sociable , why would she meet someone on dating sites? Sociable people are already full of "options", and every month there are more and more, as sociable people communicate with companies.
But why should an uncommunicative person communicate, even on the Internet? It's about stupidity. The girl is trying to follow some primitive stereotypes, a la: "Do all the guys have, and why am I worse?", And relatives are probably dripping on the brain: "Well, Nastya, when will you get married?".
So it turns out in the end that a person who is not used to communicating, who does it not for himself, but for those around him, cannot find a topic, he is not interested in listening to another, and all communication is beyond the questions "What is the name, how old, who do you work "not progressing ...
Hello! This is due to the huge male offer in the love market. In fact, your competitors are creating such high demand with their large crowds. They bombard many women with messages without much choice. And this is only on the territory of dating sites. In life, men are much more modest and shy in their behavior with women.
Because popularity. Every girl, even a glimpse of "lit up" in a dating group, even a fat / scary / age one with two trailers, simultaneously writes several dozen - if not hundreds - applicants for her hand and heart (well, just kidding, just kidding - 99% pretend only for her pussy ). Of course, in this heap of people, she immediately looms "favorites", to which her attention is mainly directed - with others who did not enter the "definitely not" category, but are still in the "well, maybe, if other options are not add up "(that is - and was not very interested - but did not drop out as unusable), there is such a" type of communication "- the minimum response to one message out of ten. Dismiss as a result - figs with him, will remain - ok, you always need to have a fallback.